Good Job. Yeah, you. A+!
Yeah, you’re probably wondering why I’m telling you that. I have my reasons. Recently, I’ve been considering how we don’t receive enough encouragement and positive feedback for living life. It’s the expectation that you’ll grow up good, and then you’ll become an adult that lives the good life.
*screeches to a halt*
Does anyone else feel like they’re still floundering in this whole adult life thing? Like in this school of life you are surely getting a failing grade, but there’s no curriculum or teacher to tell you what you’re doing wrong?
I do. I absolutely and totally do. There are SO many days where I just want to pull the duvet over my head, shove the earplugs back in, and snap the sleep mask over my eyes. Hold on for a lifetime, alarm clock. I’m just going to ignore you and shut the world out, too.
Why did I ever as a kid want to grow up? Adulthood seemed so free, so magical! Adults made the rules! Now I see that Peter Pan had it right, running off to Neverland. But if Peter had invited me to Neverland, I suspect little Barbara would have been quite adamant about wanting to grow up and do awesome things for the world.
Yeah, well. That’s not so easy.
Everything is so complicated. But let’s not turn this into a Barbara Whine Session. Unless we’re talking Wine. Rosé to be exact.
What I wanted to tell you today is that you are living the Good Life now. It is your life. You climbed out of bed today.
Maybe you’ve had that One Thing staring you down for a day, a week, or a month. You just dread doing it, whether it’s making that doctor’s appointment, fixing the drain (even though you know NOTHING about plumbing), or taking the car to the mechanic’s. Kids had it right with monsters under the bed; ours just happen to haunt our days too!
But you’re going to take care of that One Thing today (or maybe tomorrow).
I want to tell you that you’re doing a great job of figuring out life, taking care of One Thing at a time. Because as we all have figured out, that One Thing is followed by another One Thing. And another One Thing…they won’t stop coming.
BUT You’re doing it. You may feel like you’re faking it, that you’re putting off life, that you have no right to be called an adult. I get it. I do. I feel like a kid still playing house.
So that’s why I wanted to take this little bit of internet space to tell all you 20-somethings and 30-somethings that you are legit whatever stage you are in your life. If you’re not to your ideal job yet or in the ideal relationship or in the ideal apartment yet, it’s okay. But you’re still moving forward. Little by little. Think of all the things you are able to complete on your own today: start the coffee maker, pour yourself a bowl of cereal, drive the car, answer emails, go grocery shopping. The laundry list of items that adults do.
You are far from failure.
So take it from me (another confused and faking-confidence 20-something), YOU ARE GREAT and You Are Getting This Adult Thing Right. 100%. A+.
What About You?
How are you rocking Adulthood today? Staying in bed all day or taking donuts to work for the co-workers? Either one is legit!
Leave a Reply