“I have a personal bias towards myself because if I don’t, nobody else is going to.” I said this to a friend this evening. As per usual I was being ridiculous and acting overly confident (I joke that I have a healthy sense of vanity) about my opinions on beauty and fashion and such.
My friend lightly teased me about it, but I came back with that above zinger. A personal bias towards myself. You have to because no one else is going to have one for you. (Well, maybe your mama)
This quote led to an interesting discussion.
A revealing moment if you will, a moment where we stopped to consider ourselves and our opinions on who we are. One friend wished to be able to say what I had said and to believe it. That’s when I decided I should be more honest.
“I think I’m more bark than bite honestly.” I scuffed my hand over my knee. “Like I might sound close to arrogant most days, but I’m not actually as confident as I sound.” (which probably isn’t overly surprising)
But I’m more and more thinking that even though I want people to stick up for other people and their worth, no one really will. We’re either too busy with our own insecurities or we’re picking others a part or being jealous of someone’s Facebook life. Individually, we need to come to the conclusion that we are quality. You. Me. Each of us.
Once we believe it, we can move more confidently. And if I’m even more honest with you, I value me because Christ died on the cross for me, forever showing me that crazy-overly-loud-and-arrogant me is of great worth. He died for you, too. AKA YOU have great worth, too.
This isn’t one of those posts about how we need to be empowered to think we are all that and a piece custard crumble cake. It’s just a thought that captured my attention. Does how we view ourselves and talk about ourselves influence how others perceive us?
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